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11 Sexual Activities That People Don't Count As 'Having Sex'
written by Sam Greenspan

A few days ago, I saw an article about a study conducted at Indiana University. (School motto: "We can't even say 'At least we've got basketball' anymore.")

Researchers at Indiana surveyed hundreds of heterosexual adults, male and female, from age 18 all the way up to 96, and asked them if different sexual activities constituted "having sex."

And the results... were amazing. At least the results I saw. As usual, the Liberal Media only published enough of the findings to give us a taste, but not a complete picture.

Fortunately, the good people at The Kinsey Institute at IU were kind enough to provide me with the full results of their study. Good people over at that Kinsey Institute. Totally worth getting it on with one of them, even if you get the feeling they're just doing it for research purposes.

Here are 11 results of their study, which proves one major thing: People's definition of "having sex" is just as ambiguous as people's definition of irony.

  1. Regular, penis-vagina sex - 5.2% don't count that as having sex. It was this number that made me realize we can't really take anything for granted in this study. Essentially, this is saying that, if you went up to 20 people and asked them, "Does having sex count as having sex?", one of the 20 would say "Nope."

    (It also makes me wonder: If you don't count this as having sex, what the hell do you count?)

    The people really bringing the percentage down here are the older men. For men 65 and up, 22.7 percent said penis-vagina sex doesn't count as having sex -- by far the highest percentage for any age range and gender.

  2. Just the tip - 5.6% don't count that as having sex. So if you just dabble around for a short period of time, should that count? Slightly more people say no, it shouldn't.

    This is a good time to mention that the researchers found no statistically significant difference between women's responses and men's responses during thie study. So this isn't a case where every guy counts "just the tip" toward his number as he tries to inflate it... and every woman says it doesn't count as she tries desperately to stay in the golden single-digits-of-sexual-partners zone. For this one, 5.5 percent of men and 5.8 percent of women said it doesn't count -- not a big difference.

  3. Penis-vagina sex, but with a condom - 6.7% don't count that as having sex. So when you add a condom to the mix, somehow, that makes people less likely to count it as having sex. Even though there's the whole ceremony of the condom, which, universally, says, "Time to protect ourselves for sex."


    God made Dirt and Dirt bust your ass.
    I guess one out of 15 people just doesn't count that because they like it rawwww. Good idea, that -- taking sex education lessons from Ol' Dirty Bastard.

  4. Penis-vagina sex, with no female orgasm - 7.3% don't count that as having sex. These people apparently base their definition of "having sex" on a myth. I assume they'd also say it doesn't count as having sex unless you get the blessing of Zeus and Hera.

  5. Penis-vagina sex, with no male orgasm - 10.9% don't count that as having sex. I actually kinda get this one -- if you're an old school procreationist (and/or misogynist), it's not over until the man says it's over.

    Once again, it was the 65-and-older men carrying the torch here; 36.4 percent of them said it's not sex until they've finished things off, put back on their loose-fitting white tank top, taken off their sock garters and set their alarm clock to 4:30 AM.


  6. Anal sex, with a condom - 18% don't count that as having sex. Ah, yes -- the argument that's kept Catholic school kids sane for generations.

  7. Anal sex (no caveats) - 19.1% don't count that as having sex. This is flip-flopped from the penis-'gina sex statistics -- with anal sex, more people think it counts as "having sex" if it's protected as opposed to unprotected.

    They should do a follow-up survey asking people which of those two options is "grosser." I have a hunch which one would win.

    The older people drove that number up -- but this time, it wasn't just the men. 50 percent of the men 65+ said that anal sex doesn't count as having sex... but so did 33.3 of the women in that age range! For the love of all things good, do not think of the implications of those numbers relating to your single/divorced/widowed loved ones.

    A few other anal sex numbers from the survey that didn't get their own entries on this list because I'm a slave to 11: 18.2 percent think anal just the tip doesn't count as sex... 18.9 percent think anal shouldn't count without a female orgasm (?)... and 20.5 percent think anal doesn't count without a male orgasm.

  8. Receiving oral sex - 27.1% don't count that as having sex. This is blatantly, just blatantly, because of Bill Clinton.


    During his sex scandal, and the semantic games therein, the most influence-able generation was the one that's now 18 to 29. And they're, by far, the least likely to count this as sex. For men 18 to 29, 60 percent say receiving oral sex doesn't count as sex. For women in that age range, it's 32.3 percent.

  9. Performing oral sex - 29% don't count that as having sex. While I found all the numbers about penis-vagina sex and anal sex to be surprising... this makes sense to me. If I had been a part of this survey, I would've answered "doesn't count as having sex" to both of these oral sex questions.

    What can I say? We've all got a little Clinton inside us. (Some more literally than others.)

  10. Receiving manual stimulation - 51.9% don't count that as having sex. There's a huge generation gap for me (and the people in the survey) on this one. The 18-to-29-year-olds barely consider this having sex -- 83.3 percent of young men and 67.7 of young women say this doesn't constitute "having sex." For the other age ranges, the numbers are up in the 50-50 range.

    I mean, this one doesn't even end with the word "sex"... like anal sex, oral sex, or sex sex. This one ends with words like "job" and "blast."

  11. Performing manual stimulation - 55.1% don't count that as having sex. So, of all the genital-based activities you can do, this gets the fewest votes as a way of having sex. As it should. Nothing that happens to you out in public at a Vegas strip club or during a physical with a deliciously thorough doctor should make you go running around talking about you had sex. Then you're the Shermanator.

This list was originally published on Wednesday, March 10, 2010 at 11:00:00 AM under the category Dating & Sex.
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